I have found this to be so true, and I love the idea of being proud for just trying. I feel like that is so much sure what this year is about, just trying different things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you don\u2019t dare you don\u2019t change anything, critics and cynics keep the status quo going. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I need to keep repeating this to myself! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Social media has caused us to seek approval from others to a much greater extent, we often judge ourselves by what is liked or not liked- if it gets a lot of likes it was a good family vacation, a good house, a good game, etc. If it didn\u2019t get likes then it wasn\u2019t good. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I took myself off social media initially to give myself more time to get my work done for grad school but then I found I didn\u2019t miss it and I realized how much I posted to not so much connect with other people, but to humble brag about what I was doing. I also felt envy reading about what other people were doing and that led to negative and sarcastic judgments about others and myself. I stayed active on LinkedIn when I was working, partly to promote my organization, and partly to get to know my network better so I could get ideas about what I might want to do in the future. During this year off I have very rarely been on Facebook or Instagram. I think social media has some very positive community benefits but I haven\u2019t found a way to use it so that the benefits outweigh the downsides at least for myself. I found myself becoming down and negative, and that\u2019s not the way I want to live my life. I want to encourage and support other people and I\u2019d much rather spend my time creating my blog then scrolling through social media and feeling disheartened and unconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s about creating the conditions so something special can happen, not about creating a plan. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I love this, it is so challenging for me to not plan everything out because that feels like what I should do to make sure I \u2018get everything done\u2019 (whatever the hell that means!). But at the same time I have found that letting myself be more open to serendipity and exploring things I\u2019m interested in can create amazing opportunities. Less planning, more creating!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dare to be changed and let that changed version of you to draw up your budget, create your to do list and lead you everywhere you go.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n So writing is a very different type of occupation for me, I\u2019m not really even sure I should call it my occupation since I\u2019ve never published anything that I\u2019ve been paid for, I\u2019m just attempting to write a book. I\u2019m trying to figure out how much time I need to spend doing the work – writing or recording what I\u2019m thinking to put in the book, researching, talking to other explorers, etc. and how much time I need to allow myself to noodle and wander in order to find and get to the ideas and thoughts that I want to record. It\u2019s not like the more linear jobs I\u2019ve had, which were often about getting a lot of tasks done that I can just sit and bang out one after the other. This is a more winding path that doesn\u2019t outwardly look as productive, so how do I know if I\u2019m spending enough time on it or I am just finding ways to avoid work? I don\u2019t know how much of the other stuff I\u2019m doing actually has an impact on my writing. I worry I\u2019m being lazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I was listening to Kelly Corrigan\u2019s podcast this week, and these were some of the things that struck a chord with me: Fear of failure often comes from being judged. Instead you should have a deep protected sense of pride just for trying. I have found this to be so true, and I love the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6196","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-daily-updates"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/taohurley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/IMG_0260.jpeg?resize=320%2C240&ssl=1\")
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